How on earth that I'm always so busy when I'm supposed to be retired is totally beyond me!
Daughter, Sarah came in from Jersey to do some air-force transfer paper work and catch up on National Guard hours she missed during her pregnancy loss. She was here from November 30th til Tuesday this week. Although, it was really nice having her here and getting to go shopping to finish up our gifts to her and the new son-in-law. I know she had to get back home. She and the hubby are closing on their first house this month. So happy for them! It was nice just having adult company during the evenings. (Since hubby works so much I barely get to see him for an hour before I go to bed each night.)
Tuesday I had two appointments. Weight watchers in the morning - down to 163. Yay me! And then Oncologist in the afternoon. Who said he always laughs when I come in for my visits. I'm not sure that's a good thing though. This time he came in as I was trying on the purple latex gloves...and admiring my hands like Cinderella right after she is beautified by her fairy godmother. He came in and just looked at me. I shook my head and said 'What? You're not the only one who gets to wear these beauts! And besides, if you think I'm the only patient to try these on or stuff a few extra in my purse, you're fooling yourself.' His nurse kept giggle the whole time during my exam. It was a nice visit. And, now I have a few sets of pretty purple latex gloves.
Yesterday was cookie day. Had to go and make Christmas cookies with my friends. The girls! Wine, cookies, snacks, more wine...more cookies. And yes, I did say I was on Weight Watchers. I'm killing it too, but yesterday? Eeee...yeah. Might have gone a little too far over my daily allowance, but I'm back on track today. All is good. And scale said I'm down to 162.2 anyway, so cool.
Around 3:30 I had to run up to the boulevard to meet someone for an order of hand-made signs I bought for my daughter's new house. The chick was like 25 minutes late. By that point I was hyped up on sugar and my head was hurting, so her delinquency was not very well received. But.... I know it was just how I was feeling and since I may have to do business with her again in the future, I put on my happy face, paid her, got my signs and split! Grrrrrr.
Went back to cookie making shop (aka Cindy's Kitchen) and finished up the rest of the cookies. Divided them among seven girls and headed home. It was now 5:30 p.m. I still had to do homework with they boy and help him study for a science test. With the headache.
I stuffed the bucket of cookies in a bag and sat them in the front office. They were all delicious, but I sent the whole bucket in with the hubby today to give to his office staff. He gets me. I don't need those things around to tempt me. I WILL make it to my weight loss goal this time. 145. I'm soooo close. And even though I'm in a comfortable size and 30lbs down since August, I'm not giving up. Besides, I've been asked by our WW leader if there's any way I would consider becoming a leader too. What? Yeah ok...maybe. I mean, I'm sure this is how lots of people manage to keep themselves healthy and their weight within check. We'll see. Not like I have much of anything else going on. I mean, like....anything I get paid for. Ha!
So today is the first time in 3 weeks that I have practically nothing that has to be done. NOTHING!! Yes. Maybe I'll finish wrapping the last couple of gifts upstairs. Maybe not. I will definitely go for my usual run. 3-5 miles. Its a beautiful day. 40 degrees. Getting up to high 60's.
I should probably give my mom a call and see how she's doing. The week before last I talked to my sister about our dad (her dad)'s funeral expenses. She told me that she was told she would get 100% reimbursement for the costs once the bill is paid. She can submit the itemized receipt and the Veteran Affairs office would reimburse. The funeral was $5500. A funeral I didn't even go to. He is her father, not mine. But, since I do care for my sister and didn't want to see her stressed about how she would pay for the funeral before it could be reimbursed, I did offer to pay it. But ONLY if we were guaranteed the reimbursement. Aferall, his funeral was like that of a stranger for me. And like I sad, I didn't even go. Only 6 people did in fact.
Skipping ahead.
I got the number of the VA and called to see what the whole process was. Turns out they would only reimburse $300. Possibly another $100, but from what I knew about his service to the US Navy, his retirement and conditions surrounding his passing it seem more likely he was only qualified for the $300. So I called my sister to let her know. Which of course she didn't answer. So I had to send her message through FB. I gave her the details and said so obviously we won't be covering the funeral costs, but give me a call and maybe we can work something out. My hope was that she would call so I could find out WHO told her 100% reimbursement. If it was the funeral home and the upsold her on services, then she may have to fight the bill. She does not have that kind of money. She lives with my mom for crying out loud. And I know she doesn't have any money in the bank either. Ugh. But...
That was 2 weeks ago.
No phone call. *sigh*
Part of me is super-relieved we won't be paying the bill. I was starting to accept the fact that if we paid it, we may not get the reimbursement because it would be up to my sister to submit the paperwork, receive the check and then send us a check to pay us back. That was not something I felt 100% sure would happen, but my intentions were to make her feel at ease. So what I'm beating myself up about now is...how much of the services should I go ahead and cover. If any. I didn't know the man. At all. And with each day that passes that my sister doesn't call me to discuss the options, I'm more inclined to say ok, you're on your own. She was the one who made the funeral arrangements and agreed to paying for all the services. Even if she believed they would be reimbursed, she did this herself. I would have questioned everything.
But at least the stress of thinking we were going to have to pay is gone. LOL That's a huge relief. Yeah - I don't think my sister would do this for me, but then again she has never made the smartest of decisions. I feel bad for her. We came from the same house. Same parents. How did she turn out so... so.... not sure what the word is here. Unstable? Nah... immature? Maybe. She just doesn't think. She doesn't think ahead. She doesn't plan financially. Why? She's 52 years old with no type of retirement, insurance, secured assets or nest egg of any kind. And she doesn't even take care of herself. She keeps looking for a man to take care of her, but she makes the worst decisions there too. Geez. 3 failed marriages to BIG TIME losers. And she keeps ending back up at our mom's house. Wonder what will happen when mom is no longer in the picture?
And this kind of stuff is what ends up driving me to make sure we (me and hubby) do not become a burden to our kids. We are good to go.
Ok - enough stressing about things I can't change.
In 9 days my other daughter comes in from Nebraska. I can't wait!! I haven't seen her since April and I miss her terribly. Thank God for snapchat, instagram, twitter and facebook. Lol - at least I still feel connected and get to see what is going in her daily life. And she see's mine as well.
Ok - I better go get that run in while the weather is still cool. It'll feel gggggreat!
8:37 a.m. - 2017-12-14
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