Drama Drama Drama
Okay....so the one golden rule about our lifestyle is NO DRAMA ALLOWED. We are married. We have our own lives and we have plenty of our own drama between us and between us and our kids. Especially teen-age girls!
So how did we end up looking drama square in the face with Sam and Jen?
Let's see...somewhere around the end of October we were at a party together and had to leave because Sammy became extremely fussy and Rachel was having difficulty controlling him. Needless to say we had to find Sam and Jen to leave because we all came to the party together. They were "busy" with Matt and Jen K. and so we had to interrupt and put an end to their playing. I'm fairly sure the Coyls didn't appreciate that.
We explained we had a situation and needed to get home ASAP. It was 35 minutes later till we finally got out the door. We could have been home by that time. Lesson learned.
The next party after that where we agreed to drive together we felt we had to have some kind of a contingency plan if a "situation" occurred. Plus it was a known fact they had plans to come back and cotinue their night with Matt and Jen K.(who also drove seperately). The plan was if something came up, we could take their car and they would drive to their house with the K's. However, we were having a good time at the party and felt we probably would enjoy ourselves if we stayed and joined the after party. Not really a situation, but we wanted to stay nonetheless. However, during the night we were lead to believe if we left with the Coyls we would probably all get together back at their house to continue in one group. Not so much.
On the way home I said "Ok...to avoid an awkward situation, are Matt and Jen expecting us to stay or leave when we get back to your place?" Earlier Jen K. (the innocent couple here) said we should ALL go back for fun, so we kind of thought that meant all of us. Jen K really likes my Sam. And her husband likes just about anybody! We were all having some pretty sexy fun at the party beforehand.
When we got back to the Coyl's we stood in the kitchen making small talk. Finally there wasn't any indication from the Coyl's that we were to stick around. In fact Jen Coyl gave me the "Well... what a fun night that was" line which made me feel like 'Ok time to leave' - I mean hey...I can take a hint. So I threw in the "yeah that was fun and I guess we better get back over to our house and check on our girls".
Silence.....
No pleads to stick around...or well hey, don't go rushing off just yet... nothing.
We went over to our place and half expected to get a text saying something to the extent of "hey are the kids settled in, can you come back over?" Again.... nothing.
We felt that put us in an awkward situation.
We found out later both Matt and Jen K BOTH wanted us to stay and play...they felt it was Jen C. that was not okay with it. Hmmmmm. So we decided from that point on when invited to the same event we should all just drive seperately.
That weekend of awkwardness was November 21st. And so now this explains the following week bringing us to the Monday before Thanksgiving.
Jen and Sam stopped over to ask us to babysit their girls so the two of them could go meet another couple (I will talk about them in a minute). Of course we said yes to watching their kids, but oddly enough they never brought up the weekend or discussed the awkwardness. They clearly didn't see there was an issue or they were so caught up in their own plans for that night, who knows *eye roll*. OK. That's fine - it would be for us to bring up if we wanted to discuss it.
Sam C said something to my Sam about going to a poker game Wedensday night before Thanksgiving. My Sam said, well it sounds like fun but I think Linda and I are going to have a date that night.
For the record here... I asked them a week earlier if they wanted to go to a local bar called Snappers to dance the night away before Thanksgiving. You know..all the over-eating and all, I just thought it would be a good night for it!
We brought it up and neither of them said anything so Sam and I both decided we would just go out on our own that night. After the weekend THEY were the last people we wanted to go out with, we wanted to have some fun and it seems everytime we go out its ALL about them. Mostly Jen. And I really didn't mind because up to this point I truly considered her my BFF!!
I was a little bit sad about this new issue, but figured it would just pass.
So Wednesday rolls around and Sam and I get a babysitter for Sammy and all excited about going out. We didn't commit to going to Snappers or anywhere specific. We wanted to just wait till that night and see what we felt like doing. Spontaneity is our thing!
Although as luck had it, we found out one of our friends was DJing that night and we were into dancing. So...Snappers was where we went! We had an ABOSOLUTE blast. There were several other SLS couples there and it was lots of relaxing and whooping fun times. Particularly nice to get away from Sam and Jen.
The next day on Thanksgivingm Jen seemed put off. We didn't really get to chat until later. At one point she did ask how the evening went and I said "Great!" and ended up telling her all about it. I started with "We ended up at Snappers" and she gave me the...."Well yeah... I knew you guys were headed to Snappers and in fact I told my Sam when you left you guys were going" I looked at her like huh? And said "Oh? I'm not sure how you knew..becuase I asked you guys over a week ago? But even WE didnt' know what we would be doing for sure". It was very accusational as if we were trying to keep a lie from them or something....
So I believe in retaliation for us going out on date night on our own that is what lead her to the next course of events....the big lie, one after another now.
The Coyls knew for over a month they would be child-free that Saturday the 28th. At the party on the 21st they met a new couple. We all did. Matt (yes another Matt) and Sues. Very cute and very sexy.
The next day I got a friend request from both of them on FB. And a personal text from one of them saying it was nice to meet Sam and I at the party.
Lots of people are mesmerized by the four of us living so close and being so open and fun together. And not to mention two of the better looking couples hitting the scene. So naturally when we meet new people, they want to hange with all four of us.
I'm not sure at what point this became more of a me me me thing with Jen, but it was compltely noticeable the next day when all the contacting came in from Matt and Sues and she didn't get anything. Being her BFF I shared the information with her thinking "oh how cool" we have more friends. We. Not me. Not Sam and I. All four of us.
Jen began FMLing about her life and about "why" didn't she get a text, or an add to FB. And so on and so on. As soon as we got back from our errand that day they contact Matt and Sues directly and made a date.
They popped back over that afternoon to tell us they made the date and she was looking forward to it and feeling much better. Well - then Sam and I had our 'date night' that same week.
I'm fairly sure during their night with Matt and Sues they invited them over for some play time on Saturday they would be without the kids. But that's where the lying came in....
After our night out at Snappers Jen decided to say she and Sam had a date night scheduled for Saturday. She kind of went on and on about they had no idea what they would do. Yet Saturday she spent the day cleaning the house like a mad woman. Well...being her BFF and even if you weren't, anyone who knows Jen KNOWS cleaning the house means only one thing....company is coming.
Sam and I put two and two together and confirmed they were going to have Matt and Sues over. So something came up that same night for a game night and we joined a bunch of other friends that evening. We really weren't going to get caught up in the drama of Jen's lies.
The next morning I text her to see if she wanted to come share our usual cup of Sunday morning coffee together. She declined. Heheheh - we knew they still had Matt and Sues there. It was just another opportunity to see if she would say anything.
Later that day I asked Jen how her date night went and she blatently made up this crazy elaborate story about how they ran into Matt and Sues at the G-Man in Mechanisburg and ended up goig back to their place. LOL!!!
But after I came back home and told Sam how she tried to give me this whole story it kind of piss me off. Seriously? Games? Lies? Its all Drama!! And we don't accept drama!
So now we know...we see what Jen is really like and what she wouldn't do to serve herself. She is a very giving person, but can also be very selfish. Enought to not be open with us and lie as if we are fool. We are not.
And well...okay - that's about the end of that whole thing. I doublt we'll ever be as close as we used to be. Ever!!
Unless of course, we sit down and talk this all out some day. Funny thing is, we keep giving them opportunity and leadways into discussion about it...and they continue to make up new lies and dodge the issue.
So thats about it! No more drama - not for us!
1:23 p.m. - 2009-12-10
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